He's Just Not That Into You：The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys

Hesays:Ohsure,theysaythey'rebusy.Theysaythattheydidn'thaveevenamomentintheirinsanelybusydaytopickupthephone.Itwasjustthatcrazy.Alllies.Withtheadventofcellphonesandspeeddialing,itisalmostimpossiblenottocallyou.SometimesIcallpeoplefrommypantspocketwhenIdon'tevenmeanto.IfIwereintoyou,youwouldbethebrightspotinmyhorriblybusyday.WhichwouldbeadaythatIwouldneverbetoobusytocallyou.Shesays:ThereissomethinggreataboutknowingthatmyonlyjobistobeashappyasIcanbeaboutmylife,andfeelasgoodasIcanaboutmyself,andtoleadasfullandeventfulalifeasIcan,sothatitdoesn'teverfeellikeI'mjustwaitingaroundforsomeguytoaskmeout.Andmostimportantly,it'sgoodforusalltorememberthatwedon'tneedtoschemeandplot,orbeganyonetoaskusout.We'refantastic.Forageswomenhavecometogetherovercoffee,cocktails,orlate-nightphonechatstoanalyzethepuzzlingbehaviorofmen.GregBehrendtandLizTuccilloareheretosaythat--despitegoodintentions--you'rewastingyourtime.Menarenotcomplicated,althoughthey'dlikeyoutothinktheyare.Andtherearenomixedmessages.ThetruthmaybeHe'sjustnotthatintoyou.Unfortunatelyguysaretooterrifiedtoeverdirectlytellawoman,You'renottheone.Buttheiractionsabsolutelyshowhowtheyfeel.He'sJustNotThatIntoYou--basedonapopularepisodeofSexandtheCity--educatesotherwisesmartwomenonhowtotellwhenaguyjustdoesn'tlikethemenough,sotheycanstopwastingtimemakingexcusesforadead-endrelationship.Reexaminingfamiliarscenariosandclassicmindsetsthatkeepusinunsatisfyingrelationships,BehrendtandTuccillo'swiseandwryunderstandingofthesexesspareswomenhoursofwaitingbythephone,obsessingoverthedetailswithsympatheticgirlfriends,andhopinghismixedmessagesreallymeanI'minlovewithyouandwanttobewithyou.He'sJustNotThatIntoYouisprovocative,hilarious,and,aboveall,intoxicatinglyliberating.Itdeservesaplaceoneverywoman'snighttable.Itknowsyou'reabeautiful,smart,funnywomanwhodeservesbetter.Thenexttimeyoufeeltheneedtostartfiguringhimout,considerthegloriousthoughtthatmaybeHe'sjustnotthatintoyou.Andthensetyourselfloosetogofindtheonewhois.全世界最热话题书！两个月内狂销120万册！《纽约时报》畅销书排行榜第1名！一代又一代，每当喝咖啡和鸡尾酒，或夜半煲电话粥的时候，女人们都会一同切磋分析男人们令人迷惑的行为：他害怕再次受到伤害也许他不想毁了我们之间的友谊也许他是怕我他刚刚失恋格莱哥·贝伦特与丽姿·塔西露在本书中告诉我们：尽管你是好心，但你是在浪费时间；男人并不复杂，但他们愿意让你觉得他们复杂；世上没有模棱两可的讯息。真相也许就是；他其实没那么喜欢你。不幸的是，要男人直接告诉一个女人“你非我所爱”，这是绝对不可能的，但他们的行为绝对会暴露出他们的内心情感。《他其实没那么喜欢你》与广受欢迎的艾美奖获奖剧集《欲望都市》一脉相承，旨在帮助那些本来冰雪聪明的女子们洞彻男人的内心情愫，停止浪费自己的时间和情感，不再为毫无希望的恋爱关系编造借口、两位作者以其对两性关系敏锐的洞察力，重新探究了恋爱关系中一些常见的场景与典型的心态，让恋爱中的女人免于在电话旁痴心苦等，免于与女友反复推究恋爱中的细节，不再徒然希望男人的模棱两可转为满心爱意。