The Unavailable Father
- 作者
- 出版社 Wiley
- 出版时间 2010年5月
- ISBN 9780470614143
- 定价 190.30
内容简介
Thefather/daughterrelationshipiscrucialinagirl'sdevelopment.Ithasaprofoundimpactonhersenseofwhosheisandonallherfutureintimaterelationships,witheithermenorwomen.Thefailureofthefather-daughterrelationshipcansendayounggirlintoadulthoodconvincedsheisawomanwithoutworth.Theauthorconductedin-depthinterviewswith75womenover25whobecamesuccessfulintheirprofessionaland/orpersonallivesdespitethelackofafather'srecognitionandaffection;Thesewomenarefromawiderangeofeconomic,ethnic,educationalandgeographicbackgrounds.Whileeverywoman'sstoryisunique,certainpatternsemerge:Therearefatherswhoonlycanloveconditionally,fatherswhobuyadaughter'slovebutgivenoneinreturn,fatherswhosedaughtersaresimplyextensionsoftheirownegos,fatherswhoslylymanipulate,fatherswhothriveonthepowerandcontroltheyassert;stillotherswhoareverballyorphysicallyabusive,somewhoareshadow-figures,andotherswhoaresimplynotpresentatall.Notalldysfunctionalorabusivefatherscanbeneatlycategorized,buteverywomanwhoselifewasdominatedbyadifficultDadwillrecognizethehelplessnessofthechildwhonevercanplease.Whilethelegacyofpainthatthesefathersleaveisdeep,thereismuchthatcanbedonetoalleviateandeventoconquerit.Usingthesewomen'sstoriesaswellasherinsightsfromherprivatepractice,andcitingthemostrecentresearch,Dr.Rosenthaloutlinesninebasicstrategiestoovercomethevoidleftbyanabsentfatherandillustratesthesestrategiesinaction,includingAcknowledgethetruthaboutyourchildhoodUnderstandyourfather'sbehaviorsandyourdefensiveresponsesBeawareofwarningsignalstotoprepetitivehard-wireddestructivepatternsinyourcurrentlifeInvestigatepastadultrelationshipmistakes,bothpersonalandprofessionalPracticeandestablishnewpatternsofbehavior,includingpositivebrainimagingtechniquesandothers.ThewomenwhosestoriesaretoldinALIFEOFTHEIROWNhavelearnedtorecognizeandchangethepatternstheirfatherstriedtoimposeandhavemovedforward,fulfilled.
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